I subscribe to Daily Om, a website dedicated to "nurturing mind, body, and spirit." It's often a little to woo-woo for me, but many times it offers some lovely little bits of wisdom. Here's one that I made into bookmarks and put at each guest's place setting at our wedding reception:
Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.
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In the CoDA meeting I attend (which breaks its own Traditions by focusing on the book WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH by Robin Norwood) we are reminded weekly that love is not supposed to hurt. In other words, codependents tend to over-give &/or try to form relationships with emotionally abusive or unavailable people and experience great pain in that experience. Thus we often wrongly conclude that "love hurts" (instead of rightly conclude that "lack of connection with self & others hurts").
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